Encouragement for the Journey
Greetings fellow traveller,
This week I had the wonderful privilege of once more having conversations with my supervision clients. Supervision is very different from counselling / therapy or spiritual direction. A helpful way to understand supervision is to break the word into two, super – vision. This Ďvisioní or Ďíseeingí may be achieved in various ways, but ultimately it is through asking questions, that a person is able to look, to have that wider perspective, on what they are currently doing in their ministry or clinical practice. To reflect upon what is helpful and effective, along with is it making a difference for good in the lives of others? Not forgetting the effect on their life and relationships.
The concept of asking questions and reflecting upon our lives is not just for people in the helping professions, but, also for each human being.
In the last thirty years in New Zealand, there is a trend whereby a personís rights take precedent over personal responsibility. But ultimately we are each responsible for our own lives. How we live, love and respond to the ebb and flow of our lives, with its many challenges and encounters.
To help us respond healthily requires we need to ask the questions, sometimes we ask ourselves, while at other times it may be helpful for someone else to ask us, and we can then take the time to quietly respond. Not only individualsí need this helpful exercise but also communities, even communities of faith. I have appreciated our renewal team here at St Aidans who regularly take the time to ask the hard questions.
The asking of questions often brings us to a place of Not – Knowing. The way forward is learning to live with the many paradoxes of lives; of course this may be uncomfortable for we are unable to see the way ahead clearly. But, within this embrace of Not – Knowing, we slowly accept to live and delight in our lives.
At the heart of asking these deep questions, whether as an individual or in community, always requires an atmosphere of trust. Without trust there cannot be the space in which we can explore options or ideas, without fear, punishment or judgement. Let us here at St Aidans keep asking the questions always within an atmosphere of trust and acceptance, for who knows where it will lead usÖ
For in the questions, learning happens between us