Greetings fellow traveller,
Today is ĎFatherís Dayí. The very word father conjures up all kinds of images, memories, and experiences; these will be personal to us. It is impossible to compare one personís experience with another, indeed, even in a family; this can vary from sibling to sibling. Honouring those differences, I offer some thoughts for your reflection:
I believe that children know intuitively, what they need, yet unable to verbalise it. They instinctively know when love is present and when it is absent, when they feel safe and secure and when they are vulnerable.
With some children, their father is not their biological father, yet, love and care for them is deeply present.
There is rampant commercialism of fatherís day and the skills of the advertiser would have us believe, the more expensive the gift for fatherís day, the greater is the expression of love and appreciation. Don’t let us be fooled. The reality is our appreciation and love can be expressed in words or with a simple action costing $0.00.
In recent years, the absence of a father in a child’s life has received intense research at various levels. Space forbids a fuller expression of this, it is enough to say, a child needs both a female and male presence in their life for healthy development. How this may be achieved in a society that has changing values and understanding of what is a family, is open for debate.
Today, what do you want to acknowledge about your father, the good things and the not so good things each will be part of your experience and will have influenced your life’s journey? During our service today, there will be an opportunity for each of us to express that in a meaningful way.